The first time I travelled after the baby was born was my first week back at work. I took a day trip to Houston and that was ROUGH. I had never pumped on an airplane or an airport bathroom / pumping lounge. I mean, heck, I had barely pumped period! In addition, I was still so physically exhausted at 3 months postpartum, that travelling / pumping / working / getting home late at night was exhausting.
I share this experience to juxtapose it with the trip I took a couple of weeks ago, when I had a conference in Vegas. My babe is now 7 months old and everything was totally different. First of all, it was an overnight trip so it was my first night away from him. And can I let you in on a not-so-secret secret? A part of me was actually looking forward to it! Getting to sleep uninterrupted in a hotel room? Yes, please! [Of course there was plenty of #MomGuilt that came along with that but that’s a topic for another day…]
I was also privileged to get to speak at the conference. We recently won a large deal in the market and I got to talk about our success story with one of my colleagues.
I was gone for a day and a half and here’s what I learned:
I needed a break and I had to remind myself that it’s OK to need one and to take one. We had just moved, the baby was still getting over his cold, I was trying to work without my mom/nanny [who also got sick], and things were just a little more amplified than usual.
I felt like myself again. I texted my hubby from the hotel that I felt like the girl he met 5 years ago [but with so many more blessings for which to be grateful.]
I knew I had to figure out a way to slowly incorporate the things that made me feel like me back into my life. That includes working out, getting my hair done, mani/pedis, etc. With a baby, it’s so easy to follow their schedule and put yourself on the back burner. But when I had some time alone, I realized how much I needed to do these things in order to also take care of myself.
Now that I’ve been back from that trip for a couple of weeks, I can report that I have by no means been able to do all of these things. But I have made progress and that’s what I’m striving for! Doing a little something each day for myself, whether that’s a 10 minute dumbbell workout or washing and moisturizing my face. Ha!
Progress, not Perfection
Here are my recent accomplishments:
I went to a wedding where I was a bridesmaid and I made a commitment to pump during the wedding events so that I could be there for my girlfriend and also spend time with my college friends who I don’t get to see very often.
This weekend I worked out twice! The first workout, I went for a walk/run and it started to rain 5 minutes in so it only lasted about 10 min. But I’m counting it! The second workout was my first time in the gym since giving birth. #BabySteps
I got a pedicure! If you follow me on instastories, you know all about it and that it took planning and coordination with the hubs. But how worth it, it was!
I share these [what I consider] accomplishments to encourage you to try and make some time for yourself, regardless of what you have going on (i.e. work, family, etc.). I also hope it gives you support in knowing that if you’re struggling to find time to work out or just wash your face, you’re not alone. It’s important that we champion each other along the way. It’s so easy to see the instagram highlight reels of other people’s lives and to feel like everyone else has it so much more together than you do. However at the end of the day, we’re all just doing our best and taking it one day at a time.
Benjamin Hardysays that New Year’s resolutions don’t work and setting them for the whole year is a lost cause. Instead, he recommends setting actionable goals for every 90 days. This approach sits well with me as I have set quarterly goals in the past and feel that they are more realistic. Below are my goals for the first 90 days of 2019:
Create a Business Plan
Something that I have wanted to do for a long time is start my own business [or side-hustle for where I’m at in my life]. I’m not sure if it’s because I grew up surrounded by entrepreneurs [my dad started his own company shortly after my parents got married, my mom had her own shop, my aunt and uncle run their own businesses, etc.] or if it’s just my inherent nature. My intention for the first 90 days is to create a business plan and see where it goes from there.
Drink 30 oz of Water Upon Waking
You have to drink a ton of water when you’re nursing. I’m so thankful Katey McFarlan [one of my fave bloggers] mentioned these hospital water mugs in her instastories because I wouldn’t have known to take them home from the maternity ward otherwise. These mugs make it so easy to keep up my water intake because they are 30 oz. if filled to the brim. [My girlfriend recommended I drink one of these after each nursing session and that was great advice as it’s helped to keep up supply! Throughout this process I have noticed that when I drink a mug full of water on an empty stomach in the morning, I have less bloat and better digestion throughout the day. So my goal is to do that first thing each morning!
This was a goal I set last year and to be very honest, I only kept it through March. Everything after that was baby books… [I track all of my books that I’d like to read and am reading on Goodreads.] I’m hoping that this year, I will re-set this every 90 days and do better!
Do Pilates 1x a Week
This year, instead of looking at fitness as an unnecessary cost, I want to look at it as an investment. This is not an area that comes easy to me and I always push it to the bottom of my list. One thing that pregnancy really brought to the forefront was my weak core. There was one week where I could barely walk due to nerve pain shooting down my lower back and into my leg [caused by movement in a joint, essentially caused by my weak core.] And while you can’t always prevent that, I know that I need to strengthen my core to try and avoid that in that future. So, my goal is to start a pilates regimen.
It’s hard to believe that we’re discussing 2019 plans and that the new year is in full swing. [I remember writing out my 2018 Goals…] We are moving houses this week, I’m starting to travel for work A BIT and Baby Z has started solids. I told my husband that I have a feeling this year is going to FLY by, just based on how busy I already feel. So here’s to holding on tight in 2019 and enjoying every moment – the challenging along with the joyous.
I’d love to hear about your resolutions in the comments below. Let me know what you’re striving for in 2019!
Hopefully Monday wasn’t too rough and you’re now in the flow of a wonderful new week! Over the last couple of months I have been focusing on how to maximize my productivity throughout the day. It’s a journey and I do not have it all figured out yet. But I have learned several tricks [like my sleeping hack I blogged about last week] that really help, and one of them is having a solid morning routine.
Here’s my schedule starting from the minute that I wake up:
It’s finally fall and I feel like I’m living my best mini-pumpkin overloaded life over here. [But seriously, I just snagged a bag of mini white and orange pumpkins from Tom Thumb…insert *squeal* here].
As we enter into the new season and the start of Q4, my goal-setting and personal development self is operating at an all-time high. I think it also might have something to do with the fact that Rosh Hashana was last week, which is the Jewish New Year for anyone who doesn’t celebrate. 🙂 The New Year always brings out my desire to create new resolutions or at least revisit old ones. [Check out out my 2017 goals and H2 goals.] I plan on writing up my Q4 goals in the near future!
Today I want to chat about some of my favorite podcasts, apps and business leaders that I hope help you in your day to day lives. I am always on the search for the best tools and thought leaders to help me become a more efficient businesswoman and now blogger/influencer.
My Favorite Apps, Podcasts and Business Leaders are listed below.
It’s no secret that if you work in male-dominated industries like Oil & Gas, Tech or STEM-related professions, it can be challenging to find your path. Women have made significant headway over the last 50 years, now making up approximately 57% of the US labor force and are earning more graduate degrees than their male counterparts. However, only 26% of employees in computer and mathematical jobs are women, and female employees are still earning $.78 to the dollar compared to men. (See my thoughts on the pay gap and other issues affecting woman in the workplace here.) There are various reasons for the disparity and much work to be done to bridge the gap. Getting engaged and taking the following steps can potentially move the issue forward and help women thrive: