I can’t believe that over half of the year has gone by and my baby is now one. Hopefully my experience over the last year can help any of the new mamas-to-be as you create your baby registry and prepare the nursery. I currently have four pregnant girlfriends and their journeys have inspired this post. I am also expecting my second baby later this fall [surprise!!], so stocking up on essentials is on my mind. 🙂
Are you terrified of public speaking or do you enjoy getting up in front of a crowd? If you happen to identify with the former, you’re in good company. It has been stated that ‘Glossophobia,’ or the fear of public speaking, is one of the top phobias that individuals experience.
I have done my fair share of public speaking over the last 10+ years and I know how debilitating it can be if you are anxious about the process. I am an IT / Oil & Gas consulting executive and my job is to give sales presentations, software demos, execute the proposal response process, manage our client relationships and lead our team in the delivery of projects and client support. There are a lot of opportunities to speak publicly to both my superiors and my team. I am probably one of the few/weird humans who actually enjoys speaking in public. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m still nervous every time I do it. My heartbeat quickens, I worry that I’ll forget everything I prepared to say and I fear that I’ll be judged. But oddly enough, presenting gives me a rush and I always feel energized after doing it. [Now, I will say that while I like to give presentations, speak at conferences and lead meetings in a professional setting, I can completely clam up in a social setting. I think that with my work, I feel like I have a script to fall back on and that gives me the courage and confidence I need. However, socially I can get nervous and let the fear of people’s judgement shake me. Interesting dichotomy, huh? But that’s a topic for another day. 😉 ]
The first time I travelled after the baby was born was my first week back at work. I took a day trip to Houston and that was ROUGH. I had never pumped on an airplane or an airport bathroom / pumping lounge. I mean, heck, I had barely pumped period! In addition, I was still so physically exhausted at 3 months postpartum, that travelling / pumping / working / getting home late at night was exhausting.
Benjamin Hardysays that New Year’s resolutions don’t work and setting them for the whole year is a lost cause. Instead, he recommends setting actionable goals for every 90 days. This approach sits well with me as I have set quarterly goals in the past and feel that they are more realistic. Below are my goals for the first 90 days of 2019:
Create a Business Plan
Something that I have wanted to do for a long time is start my own business [or side-hustle for where I’m at in my life]. I’m not sure if it’s because I grew up surrounded by entrepreneurs [my dad started his own company shortly after my parents got married, my mom had her own shop, my aunt and uncle run their own businesses, etc.] or if it’s just my inherent nature. My intention for the first 90 days is to create a business plan and see where it goes from there.
Drink 30 oz of Water Upon Waking
You have to drink a ton of water when you’re nursing. I’m so thankful Katey McFarlan [one of my fave bloggers] mentioned these hospital water mugs in her instastories because I wouldn’t have known to take them home from the maternity ward otherwise. These mugs make it so easy to keep up my water intake because they are 30 oz. if filled to the brim. [My girlfriend recommended I drink one of these after each nursing session and that was great advice as it’s helped to keep up supply! Throughout this process I have noticed that when I drink a mug full of water on an empty stomach in the morning, I have less bloat and better digestion throughout the day. So my goal is to do that first thing each morning!
This was a goal I set last year and to be very honest, I only kept it through March. Everything after that was baby books… [I track all of my books that I’d like to read and am reading on Goodreads.] I’m hoping that this year, I will re-set this every 90 days and do better!
Do Pilates 1x a Week
This year, instead of looking at fitness as an unnecessary cost, I want to look at it as an investment. This is not an area that comes easy to me and I always push it to the bottom of my list. One thing that pregnancy really brought to the forefront was my weak core. There was one week where I could barely walk due to nerve pain shooting down my lower back and into my leg [caused by movement in a joint, essentially caused by my weak core.] And while you can’t always prevent that, I know that I need to strengthen my core to try and avoid that in that future. So, my goal is to start a pilates regimen.
It’s hard to believe that we’re discussing 2019 plans and that the new year is in full swing. [I remember writing out my 2018 Goals…] We are moving houses this week, I’m starting to travel for work A BIT and Baby Z has started solids. I told my husband that I have a feeling this year is going to FLY by, just based on how busy I already feel. So here’s to holding on tight in 2019 and enjoying every moment – the challenging along with the joyous.
I’d love to hear about your resolutions in the comments below. Let me know what you’re striving for in 2019!
It has been a hot minute since I posted last and that is because 6 months ago (how has it been that long already?!) I had a baby and am now slowly starting to get back into the swing of things. [And by that I mean into my new swing of things, or my new normal.] Although I’m now doing the things I did pre-baby [working, spending time with family and friends, attempting to exercise 😛], everything in life has shifted.
What I Would’ve Told Myself 6 Months Ago
Before giving birth, so many people gave me advice, tidbits and to-dos. So much of what they said I had heard before, but none of it really sank in until my precious little guy arrived. If I could go back in time, here are the pearls of wisdom I would share with myself:
You will love your sweet little sugar bear more than you thought possible. Your heart will expand along with your belly, and it will never shrink back to its previous size. You are forever changed in this way and your ability to love has expanded tenfold. With all that love comes a physiological need to make sure your baby is thriving. Ensuring he is fed, warm, happy and loved is something you need to do in order to be OK.
You will miss binging on Netflix, snuggling with your husband on the couch, going to a movie, getting your nails done, sleeping in and through the night for that matter, etc. But it will be SO worth it. Every minute of it.
Despite all of the changes, you will still be you and you will still have the same dreams that you did before. You don’t have to give any of those up just because you had a baby. You might need to put them on ice for some time, but don’t feel like you have to shut off a part of you that you need to feel fulfilled.
Your priorities will shift completely and things that were once important may get filtered out because they no longer are. You will also realize how much time you had before and wonder what the heck you did with it!!
You will cherish your mama and all the other mamas that walk this earth more than you ever did before. You don’t understand now but you will soon. A mama’s love is endless and enduring, and she has given you more than you know – physically, mentally and emotionally.
My Favorite Products
Throughout these last 6 months, I have been able to compile a list of the most helpful products / hacks that I hope will help you in your day to day life. [These are not all related to motherhood, so even if you’re a young professional on the go or a seasoned mama who’s been there, done that, there’s a little something for you as well.]
Here’s what I’ve been loving these last couple of months that have made life so much easier:
Babybjorn – Hands down the best baby gift we received. My girlfriend recommended this toy to add to it and it keeps the baby entertained while I shower or cook dinner. I can put him in there and place him right next to me to keep an eye on him. [Although now that he’s starting to sit up on his own, I know this bouncer’s days are numbered…]
Cosabella PJs – my MIL bought me these while pregnant and they are some of the comfiest pjs I own. They’re great for nursing because of the nursing cami and I love that they come with a robe. Pregnancy and nursing are not pre-requisites for loving these. My mom got a pair and wears the pants and robe and loves them. My other favorite PJs are these from Nordstrom. SO soft and cute, these are great if you’re staying over at someone’s house and need some presentable sleepwear. I wear these several times a week. [The button down top is great for middle of the night nursing as well.]
Moisturizing cream – I recently discovered that I’ve been moisturizing ALL wrong for my dry skin. Add in a baby and make that SUPER dry skin. I ended up trying THIS one after reading Annie Lawless’ post and my skin feels SO much better, and the redness has subsided tremendously. If you’re dry/sensitive, I highly recommend! [If you’re oily, this same brand makes this one but I haven’t used it myself.] I have also been using this cream for the last couple of weeks [also per Annie Lawless’ recommendation] and I love it. It’s even more hydrating than the Belif cream – it’s thicker and soothes my dry irritated skin.
In other news related to skincare, I just started using the the slip pillowcase and slip scrunchies. The pillowcase is supposed to help decrease fine lines and acne breakouts, let your skincare products stay on your skin as opposed to getting absorbed into your pillowcase and also keep your hairstyle intact. So far I like it, but I’ll provide my thoughts on this once I’ve used it longer.
Crinkly books – y’all, these are the cats meow. Baby Z loves to play with these, grab the objects coming out of them and more importantly crinkle them for the noise. These would make a great gift if you’re looking for something for an infant / early toddler.
Tory Burch coley slippers – I’m in these all day erryday. My mom got me these for Hanukkah last year and I saved them until recently. I started wearing them at home ever since we got home from the hospital and they’re so cozy. I found them on eBay and Amazon still carries a similar style as well.
Lactation cookies – breastfeeding is an incredible experience for so many reasons. However, nothing is scarier than feeling like you’re low on supply. These (delightful, trick-myself-into-thinking-I’m-eating-regular-chocolate chip) cookies are the bomb! I’ve read some negative reviews where some people don’t like how they taste but I think they are delicious. I have them once a day after lunch along with my Mothers milk tea. Now the tea does have a unique flavor and took some getting used to. But now that I’ve been drinking it daily and have become accustomed to it, I love it!
Decaf instant coffee – I limited my caffeine intake during pregnancy and one of the ways I did that was getting rid of my cup o’ [caffeinated] Jo. I love the feel of a warm cup of coffee in the morning so I knew I didn’t want to wholly get rid of this part of my routine. I was also so nauseous that I didn’t have the desire to grind beans and make coffee. So I scoured the grocery stores for instant decaf and couldn’t find anything. Thank goodness for Amazon where I was able to find these. I’m still drinking the decaf and might continue to do so even after nursing ends. I mean JLO abstains from alcohol and caffeine and looks like this at 48 so she must be onto something, amirite?!
All in all, I am beyond grateful for each and every minute of this new stage of life. I am loving being a mom and feel that this was one of my life’s purposes. I am just figuring it out one day at a time and will share my learnings in the hopes that they help you as well.